In a time of strife, perhaps a little kindness and understanding might help. Understanding only comes through conversation. Humans, listening and learning from one another. The end goal is not to make the other believe as you do, but for each to learn and thus understand the opposing views. Only when the layers are peeled away, does understanding and increased knowledge take place.
The great scholars in history knew the value of civilized debate. They thirsted for knowledge and knew they could only continue learning by listening, discussing their shared beliefs and the beliefs they didn’t share, but needed to know more of. They learned through debate. I shudder to think what wonders we would have missed if they were prevented from having their vigorous debates.
Understanding brings about the ability to converse and get along. Arguing, yelling and name calling wins nothing. An aggressive stance does not allow the speaker the opportunity to be heard. They are tuned out. If the comment or circumstances prevent you from responding with something nice, something positive, perhaps you should consider saying nothing.
We are all human, each with different beliefs, lifestyles and opinions. No one is completely right, no one is completely wrong. Our environment forms our views. When we only look to those who agree with our way of thinking, we stifle our imagination, creativity and understanding. If we scream at someone who disagrees, calling them vile names, we become less than human. We are gifted with intellect, designed to think and comprehend. Step back, observe, listen, you might be surprised at what you learn.
There seems to be a misconception in our world today. If someone states their beliefs and values, they are thought to be condemning or judging those who differ with them. This is not true. They are clearly stating their preference or objection. They are not saying, should not say, you must believe as they do. We must learn to respect each persons individual beliefs and way of life.
I don’t like the taste or texture of coconut. Does that mean I’m saying all coconut is bad and should be banned from this planet? Of course not. It’s me, my taste, and I would never think of forcing my preference on anyone else. Coconuts are important, I use by-products of coconuts, so I know they are good. I just don’t like the taste. My preference is simply that, mine. I would not like to be forced to eat coconut nor would I deprive someone of the delicacy if that is their preference.
This simple analogy works the same for religion, sexual orientation, politics and all social views. If my views differ from yours, it doesn’t mean I don’t like you or think you should change. I won’t dislike you for differing from me. So please don’t dislike me for differing from you. We are all human, each with our own thoughts. Let’s try and understand. A little conversation might find we have more in common than we thought. Understanding brings knowledge, peace, love and unity.
